“The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity.”—Ulysses S. Grant
“She was the kind of person who took care of things by herself. She’d never ask anybody for advice or help. It wasn’t a matter of pride, I think. She just did what seemed natural to her.”—Naoko (Norwegian Wood, Haruki Murakami)
“…While it’s true you’re haunted by your past, it’s truer that you’ve traveled spectacularly far away from it. You swam across a wide and wild sea and you made it all the way to the other side. That it feels different here on this shore than you thought it would does not negate the enormity of the distance you traversed and the strength it took you to do it.”—Cheryl Strayed
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I asked this girl what she looked for in a man. She gave me a long ass list, including
Having his own place
Needs a car
Has to support her
Has to be in school
Can’t have kids
And a bunch of other shit. By the end of it, I was wondering to myself the awesome things she must have to offer this perfect nigga she’s looking for. I asked her what she had to offer said nigga and she just said
And she was dead serious. I looked at her like
Man, your love is worth a box of tic tacs and some paper clips, bitch. How can you ask for things that you can’t reciprocate or add on too? In my my mind I was trying to imagine what gave this goofy hoe this kind of mentality; but I digress. I guess she thinks that it’s an equal trade and I’m sure there’s a nigga out there who’s able and willing to offer her all of those things in exchange for what I’m sure is a warped idea of love and for him, I pray.
“The most important part of life, the source of its pleasure and pain, is probably relationships. In psychoanalytic terms, emotionally important people are called objects, and the analysis of interpersonal relationships is called object relations theory. The key insight of the object relations approach is that we can only relate to other people via the images of them we hold in our minds, and these images do not always match reality. Not surprisingly, mismatch causes problems.”—
“I think the reason why twentysomethings are so fixated on age is because we feel a pressure to be a certain way at 23, at 25, at 29. There are all of these invisible deadlines with our careers and with love and drinking and drugs. I can’t do coke at 25. I need to be in a LTR at 27. I can’t vomit from drinking at 26. I just can’t! We feel so much guilt for essentially acting our age and making mistakes. We’re obsessed with this idea of being domesticated and having our shit together. It’s kind of sad actually because I don’t think we ever fully get a chance to enjoy our youth. We’re so concerned about doing things “the right way” that we lose any sense of pleasure in doing things the wrong way. Youth may be truly wasted on the young.”—Why Do Twentysomethings Always Feel So Old | Ryan O’Connell