“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”—Ralph Waldo Emerson
Jan Eastgate, President of the Citizen’s Commission on Human Rights within the Church of Scientology, is accused of covering up child sex abuse by coaching an 11-year-old girl to lie about the abuse she endured in order to protect the Church.
Well, they’re certainly ramping up their efforts to be considered a legitimate religion, aren’t they?
“A woman’s heart is not bought by the currency of a man’s emotion for her. A woman’s heart is won over by her own feelings for herself when he just happens to be around.”—A Long Long Time Ago and Essentially True, Brigid Pasulka
“That’s the thing about humans. They can never hold still. On the one hand, they hate change. They love their rut, their every day life and everything that’s happening. On the other hand, they always want to recreate everything, trying to invent something the world, of course, couldn’t live without. That’s the thing. That’s the problem. We love change. We hate it. Still, we can’t go on without it.”—
I consider myself perfectly sane for perceiving relationships the way I do, but when I put myself in context to society, I come off as looking pessimistic and overly selective… But I call it having standards and being realistic.
And now that both my siblings are in relationships, I’m in for a shit ton of lovey dovey gayness. And if you know me, you know how much I hate that shit. -___-
!!But that’s not to say I’m opposed to the idea of romantic relationships —rather, I have a low tolerance for overly emotional shit in the forms of pet names, pda, and the like. I just feel relationships function better when that shit is kept in check, and instead of it composing 70% of the relationship, I’d prefer it serve as a garnish.
In essence, I’m just not all for emotionally unstable people who lead unself-reflective lives to enter relationships; because when things go sour (and they will, in so far as not every thing can be honky dory all the time), not only will the friends and family have to deal with the emotional backlash —being that person is ill equipped to assess the situation properly— but that which the individual leaves unresolved will ultimately resurface. Too often people use relationships as an emotional crutch, with the misconstrued belief that filling the void of loneliness we are all susceptible to will disappear when patched with affection —but that’s not how it works.
Whenever you think you’ve got shit figured out, life throws you a curve ball —adding an element of spontaneity to what you previously thought was, in a sense, set in stone.
I feel I’ve gone through quite a lot of growing within the past few years —each year having its significance to my overall well-being for their own reasons. The events that occurred this past year or so definitely encouraged me to grow, and despite my thinking I already had things figured out (like my future in Psychology and my relationships with people), life threw me for a loop. Not only have I come to realize Psychology is not necessarily the best field for me, but that my then current relationships with people could do with some much (more) needed editing and filtering.
I guess what I’m trying to say is: always stay on your toes because just when you think you’ve been through/seen/know it all, you haven’t and you don’t. But instead of fighting it, embrace it. Life is all about testing you, and you should take it upon yourself to not only rise to the occasion but perceive such developments as opportunities for self-improvement and growth.